I wonder if Mom could get you a discount.
For the perspective of a Japanese woman getting married to a male AV actor, there is a youtube interview with Haruka Ito, the common law wife of Ken Shimizu (aka Shimiken). They have a son and she discusses many details about life together. jugulear has a thread about him here:
https://www.akiba-online.com/threads/japans-most-famous-male-porn-star.1586757/
The interview:
Imagine having her sign the dvd at a meet event