Has anger ever made you do anything stupid?

[xeffects]

I remember when I was with my ex-girlfriend, we were living together. It was actually my first time living together with someone that I loved. Everything was overwhelming to me at first and problems started.

All I know is that this girl loved me to death and one night, she talked to me about moving out and getting her own place so she can get her life back together but I knew something was up, I had done something wrong.

Our last argument was very ugly. I came from work tired one day and was using the computer to free my mind, something I would always do every time I came from work. One night she comes up and tells me to watch her son....her ex husband's son, he lived with us. I told her to live him with me in the room but she insisted I go downstairs to the room we both sleep in that she had a movie playing for him, I was busy doing something on the computer. I remember she kept pushing the subject and WOULD NOT leave me alone already. I started to get angry and tried to find a way to control my anger my looking through books and stuff.

I then found a picture of a friend of mine whom I've known for over 8 years. It was a picture I was supposed to mail out to her a long time ago. I picked it up and she saw it and immediately assumed that I loved her or was seeing her....this got me angrier....she took my keys and said I wasn't going anywhere that night...I told her to give me my keys back....she wouldn't.

She went up to my room and she started saying all this B.S, eventually I lost my temper and let it all out. I grabbed a PC I was working on and slammed it on the floor, then took my expensive CRT and slammed that too on the floor....she got scared and immediately gave me my keys.....that night I told her to move out of my house, that me and her were over, I couldn't take her drama anymore....she cried and begged not to leave her and then I found myself bleeding from my finger....I got hurt while throwing stuff.

She went down to the room crying, there was blood all over the place. I slept in the computer room and left next morning to the hospital. I thought for a while and realized that everything I said was out of anger and that I scared her a lot by doing what I did.

I never realized that someone could push you so far and make you loose control like that.

We eventually talked and worked it out and hugged me and wouldn't let me go the next night I came from work.

BUT, thats not why she broke up with me.....I got careless with things. Got behind on the house mortgage, the friends we were renting too didn't want to help pay with the spendings, she tells me I wasn't dedicating time to her and always spending time on the computer.....(jeez, I only went up there for 1 hour every night I came from work to work on my projects and stuff, we always slept together afterwards and woke up on the same bed!?!?)

She got pregnant during March and was emotionally active those weeks. Anything I would do or say or just tick her off for no reason. She started pushing me away in bed, I didn't know why but one night....ANGER again, I got angry because of this......well not angry but sad or angry and sad at the same time and went up to my room and slept there for 3 nights in a row and during these 3 days, I ignored her and didn't talk to her, not even texted her. That was perhaps the worst thing I ever done, how stupid could I have been.

I called and told her to pick me up from work one night. She came in our car and I asked if she still loved me, she said yeah but that she had a couple of things in her mind, I wanted to know......

When we got there thats when she told me, she wanted to move out and have her own place, that she wanted some space until I found a place and got settled in.....but we already had a place and were settled in!?!? I knew she was braking up with me but even like this she hugged me and told me not to break up with her and to respect her decision.

But I knew it was all my fault, the big fight we had were I cut my finger and me ignoring her and not sleeping with her for 3 days in a row. During that time she must have assumed that I had moved on and wanted her to move out. She would come up to the room sometimes and knock during those 3 days but I didn't answer.

Anger can make you do stupid things if you don't control it. Don't be a victim of anger. I still love my ex a lot and have not been able to move on, she already has and is even living with another guy.

But its sad, how she gave up on us, didn't even give things a chance to calm down and for us to talk. I did come back down on the fourth night and she asked why I was ignoring her......I only responded cuz you push me away, a dumb reason.

I believe that the emotional break downs she was having from the pregnancy, the hormones, lead to to her impulsive decision to move out and get her own place. When we are emotional we tend to do things with out thinking. I quit my last job because a co-worker hurt me my feelings, I didn't wanted to argue, I just wanted to get out of there and not ever go there again but then, after I got over it, I realized I had made a big mistake and was with out a job for months because of my stupid decision but hey I was emotionally hurt because of what he said and partly because at that time my ex had left me, so I had all this emotional baggage that was hard to deal with.

After the break up....it wasn't long before my ex-girlfriend turned into the #1 B*tch of the century. She started to hate me for no obvious reason up until today. She wants nothing to do with me, hates me, doesn't even want me to know were she lives and didn't even let me sign the birth certificate. She will not even let me see my son, she hates me so much its just unexplainable.....I still can't figure out why she hates me so much?

I've been saving up money now to start a court battle with a still hormonally active woman going through post partum depression. This is terrible and never imagined the woman that you loved so much could be the person she hates the most in her life.

 

[DarkStorm11]

Thanks for sharing this.

From your posting, you are probably older than me but I can understand how you feel.

I hope things will improve for you. Well-wishes.

 

[Aqua2213]

Hey..I've done that,"I'll show you! I'll destroy my most precious items in life!" It was good you didn't harm her physically.

In the old days it was hitting the bar with the boys after work for an hour...or two and now it seems the computer has replaced that scenario.

I don't want to get into your situation other than to say, print up your post and take it to a therapist who can help you deal with what has happened and the future also.
I've used a therapist for anger management and adult child of alcoholic issues and had amazing results that have carried me thru to this day.

I know by your posts you are a good guy and I see by this thread you can get hurt emotionally also and don't have the skills to deal with it.

Your girlfriend has moved on burned all the bridges and so should you.

Is her new man in her life going to raise your son as his own financially and as a father?
Are you supporting your son by sending money?

Anger is a mask we wear when we are hurt or saddened and don't want to show it.

I hope you seek help for yourself and you will never regret it.
Thanks for sharing your harrowing experience.

 

[xeffects]

I never touched her, I instead deflected my anger towards objects. I broke the computer stand with one single punch, she was amazed when I did that, even I was...I've learned that anger can make you feel like your invincible, you lash out with out thinking, its even worse when your full of pride, you basically think your invulnerable...and can lash out at anything or anyone.

I never touched her and I find it surprising that she has not put a restraining order on me, perhaps I should be thankful for that.

 

[Aqua2213]

I never touched her, I instead deflected my anger towards objects. I broke the computer stand with one single punch, she was amazed when I did that, even I was...I've learned that anger can make you feel like your invincible, you lash out with out thinking, its even worse when your full of pride, you basically think your invulnerable...and can lash out at anything or anyone.

I never touched her and I find it surprising that she has not put a restraining order on me, perhaps I should be thankful for that.

I know you never touched her. I was just stating that anger management helped me pull in the reins on anger and manage it. It can for you too!

 

[maddog1234]

Once, about 15 years ago, I was at work. The office was fairly laid back and most of us were out of the office more than we were in--doing our jobs at client locations--the office was a "base of operations" for us more than a place to actually "work." I have a quick temper at times and, while I forget what provoked me, I do remember doing this. I had been on the phone and when the call ended I slammed the receiver down so hard that plastic shot across the room! I don't recall if I was upset with the conversation I had had on the phone or if it was the computer (we were a computer reseller organization and the equipment in our office was HORRIBLY outdated and SLOW and the link to company headquarters was also very slow).

I also remember another time at another company (again working with a computer that would not cooperate with me) I slammed the mouse down on the desk so hard that it broke.

Something I have had to recognize is that the word "anger" is only one letter off from "danger" and that, if not dealt with, can cause serious problems.

I have kicked furniture, slammed doors and almost anything else you can think of when I was angry. I have also quit boards like this because someone made me angry and the best way to deal with it was to walk away. I have also quit a job out of anger--more than once!

 

[Aqua2213]

Once, about 15 years ago, I was at work. The office was fairly laid back and most of us were out of the office more than we were in--doing our jobs at client locations--the office was a "base of operations" for us more than a place to actually "work." I have a quick temper at times and, while I forget what provoked me, I do remember doing this. I had been on the phone and when the call ended I slammed the receiver down so hard that plastic shot across the room! I don't recall if I was upset with the conversation I had had on the phone or if it was the computer (we were a computer reseller organization and the equipment in our office was HORRIBLY outdated and SLOW and the link to company headquarters was also very slow).

I also remember another time at another company (again working with a computer that would not cooperate with me) I slammed the mouse down on the desk so hard that it broke.

Something I have had to recognize is that the word "anger" is only one letter off from "danger" and that, if not dealt with, can cause serious problems.

I have kicked furniture, slammed doors and almost anything else you can think of when I was angry. I have also quit boards like this because someone made me angry and the best way to deal with it was to walk away. I have also quit a job out of anger--more than once!

WOW! Thanks for your honesty maddog1234 (your nick..how fitting).
I get pissed at inanimate objects sometimes. Once while eating pizza, the hot cheese just kept coming out of the slice in strands and I kept reeling it in with my teeth and tongue but was in a hurry and getting pissed cause it was hot.
I started chewing in a exaggerated fashion as the relentless hot cheese just kept on coming and it was burning my tongue.
I chewed fast and hard making groaning sounds and suddenly I stopped with the feeling of sudden pain. I had bit into my tongue and I threw the pizza across the room (I was alone..thank god).
So I had a burned and bleeding tongue and still had little strands of mozzarella hanging over my lower lip.
You're not alone.....mg:

 

[scorres]

who me?

My favorite of the stupid crap I've done is:
Winter in Colorado, mad at my GF, so I went to the bar, (like I needed an excuse!)
she came see what my problem was, (I get a bit jealous when she bangs other guys),
she drags me out to the sidewalk,and we start yelling.
I'd never hit her, but I like her to know what would happen if,
so I'd punch walls, or whatever, but this time I spun around
to find something to hit, Hey! a tree Wham! she takes a step back
as about a truck-load of wet, slushy snow drops like a blanket over my head..
I was soaked, and when she quit laughing, gave my grumpy ass a ride home.

 

[HarutoAsou]

I don't know if this is good or bad.

I had been dating girl for 3 months and we were in love and I went to Korea for 6 months. The first 2 months went fine but she never really liked saying "I love you" she was more of that "I expect you to know" girl. I pushed her and asked her if anything was wrong and she said "if anything is wrong, I'll let you know ahead of time so we can prevent it." Shortly after that she never came online, never responded to my e-mails, texts or even calls. A month later she sent me an e-mail breaking up with me. I was in Korea and had no way to get home and settle this. For the next 2 months I was fairly miserable and still she wouldn't be online or reply to any e-mails, texts or calls. We finally met when I arrived back home and things didn't get any better. We went to a concert with her best friend whom I was never allowed to meet because we apparently had too much in common. She had forgot her ID and had to run home to get it, so for a good 15 minutes her best friend and myself were alone. We started to talk and exchanged numbers. I was still angry over what she had done with me so in the following month I started to date her best friend and fucked her best friend just to get revenge. Not really the smartest move but oh well. A month later I sent her all the pics of me and her friend together, holding hands, spending Valentines Day together and she refuses to believe they are real and ignores the time stamp because apparently they spent some time together on Valentines Day as well.

Anger can make you do stupid things, in this case it was anger driven by revenge.

 

[xeffects]

I forgot about my ex......I know the baby she was carrying was mine but she insists that I am not the father and that when she was with me, she was using birth control pills. So here comes the stupid part....

I remember I gave her a pregnancy test and said, lets go, I want to see you do this. Oh yeah, I actually saw her pee and deep it into the thing for testing, we waited a couple of minutes and it was positive, we were happy. Then months later shes with another guy saying the baby isn'nt mine and that when she was with me, she was taking birth control pills......this girl is so stupid and naive its not even funny......thats when I found out she had the mind of a little girl when she made that remark, better for me, no child support. Later her mother tells me she sign the birth certificate herself and that the father was NEVER present which I know was me and I wasn't because she dindnt want me to be.

Her new son will grow and he will start looking like his father and in time that little man will want to know who hes father is. If a couple of years later a boy comes looking for me requesting a DNA test and it turns out i'm his father......I will never forgive his mother......infact her presence will disgust me....and i'll let my son know the lie he had to live with his selfish mother......how she kept me away from him when I fought every step of the way but she kept threatening me with PFA orders and the police.....I'm pretty sure my son would be dissapointed in his past history and he will want to know why his mother did those things......my explanation......I have no idea my son....she told me I wasn't your father and to get the fuck out her life....she wanted another man to sign the birth certificate, I don't know why but know you know the truth and you have a right to choose.....her or me......she is your mother after all but can you look at her the same way now? How do you know she doesn't have any more lies she hasn't told you about? I will never forgive your mother for what she did.

I'll be saving up money now in the coming years in the event the bitch attempts to file for backed support.....the minute she does that is the minute i'll start a custody battle and I have enough proof on me to demonstrate the judge how irresponsible and disgusting she is.

 

[redrooster]

When I was devorced I was the winner of the battle, we were at court for only 20 minutes until there was a judgement, I never had to pay my ex any cent for anything and I got the full responsibility for my child - so I became a single educating father (if the translation is correct) since she was 5 years old, with all those advantages and disadvantages such a situation contains...

 

[xeffects]

You left 3 dots....can you finish it? I'm curious, lol. Another question redrooster....seeing as your a mod, doesn't swearing bother you guys here? I mean, there are two types of swearing, just saying like "fuck" and then actually saying it to someone...most forums prohibit swearing to keep threads from turning into heat. I'm surprised it hasn't been done so here in A-O its no were in the rules but were all mature adults here. Still, swearing should either be censored or not used. I've looked at several of my posts and when I use such words, it looks unprofessional to me.

 

[redrooster]

I always leave three dots... - just my style

in the meantime I am a triple grandfather, that´s how the story continues...

reg. swearing you have to ask chompy about it.

 

[fr0stbyte]

I swear on most forums I've joined.. It's never directed to "a person".. My words are all due to excitement and OMG moments.. Like say.. A fellow member on SLF posted this "skinny girl" that was doing AV.. I used the full words for OMFG. No one reacted and it was clearly understood by many as an exclamation of shock (believe me when I say it was bizarre, her lower body looked like the Crypt Keeper's!!). And banning swearing on a porn forum? Kinda hypocritical don't you think? We say "tits" "pussy" "dick" "ass-hole" and we can't say "fuck"? I'd understand it if it was like.. "Fuck you fr0stbyte! Suck my dick!". That would be clearly directed TO ME. But if it were like.. "Fucking awesome post fr0sty!", would you be offended?

Anyways.. To the OP's situation.. Well, I really can't understand how women think. I mean.. You just looked at the picture for a minute or two and she already thinks the girl was your lover or something? That was fucked up.

 

[Ukonkivi]

I was once so angry at my parents that I don't that I don't believe in God and that believing in God is delusional and stupid.
I got the tar beat out of me and a lot of my personal possessions destroyed.

 

[Rhinosaur]

I was once so angry at my parents that I don't that I don't believe in God and that believing in God is delusional and stupid.
I got the tar beat out of me and a lot of my personal possessions destroyed.

I'm guessing your parents must believe in that loving god of peace who is full of compassion and forgiveness!!

 

[Aqua2213]

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Originally Posted by Ukonkivi View Post
I was once so angry at my parents that I don't that I don't believe in God and that believing in God is delusional and stupid.
I got the tar beat out of me and a lot of my personal possessions destroyed.
I'm guessing your parents must believe in that loving god of peace who is full of compassion and forgiveness!!

Yeah, sounds like you experienced the Wrath of God:crash:

 

[HarutoAsou]

God gives you free will, unless you want to be homosexual or believe in another god, then you are going to hell. Hypocritical, no?