Japanese Girl Online wants to Marry me

[martin2316]

Men, it is so surreal.
I am 3.75 time poorer (more poor?? Jaja) than you. I am argentinian.
So it is 3.75 times harder to find a japanese girl??.
I am a looser, but with a very big pennis jajaja.

 

[MikieNes]

Being an American married to a Japanese lady, I'd say proceed with extreme caution.

Yeah, you'll definitely have to marry her first and it sounds like her priority is more getting out of Japan than you. The truth is, American isn'T ANYTHYING like what the typical Japanese girl imagines, and the smackdown of reality ain't gonna be pleasant.

You;re gonna do what you want anyway of course, but don't say you weren't warned.....

 

[HarutoAsou]

Sounds like she just using you to get over to US...but I could be wrong. I never really trust online relationships.

Did you even bother to check if you parents are cool with her living in their house? I'm assuming since you can't move out yet that she would be staying there...that would be step one.

If you want a better paying job (well it's a bit different 'cause I'm in Canada) but you can easily get warehouse jobs here that pay $15.00/hour starting, that's enough to live on your own. I've done just fine making around $22.00/hour.

Also it's much different LIVING with someone. I could personally never live with any of my GF (except the girl I'm currently engaged to). The thing is...it's different to have a GF who stays at your place a lot, rather than a GF who LIVES at your place and can never leave even if you want her too. I actually had to live with my current fiance for around a month before I decided that marriage would be a good idea (in others words, she didn't leave my place for a month), but I've had a few girls live with me and it ended within a couple weeks.

Other option...get a Korean girl (best girls ever) ;P

EDIT: Also...how long have you known her? It might just be me but I liked to actually date around first so I wouldn't have any doubts. My first GF was for 4.5 years and we were engaged and I broke it off due to doubts of "is she the one?" because I didn't have any basis for it. After dating many many girls after that, I'm sure of my choices for my current fiance (this is the 2nd time I've been engaged, it's not a habit). In other words, that girl I was with for 4.5 years wasn't the one and I'm damn glad I didn't marry her.

 

[Rhinosaur]

Let's not forget that Japanese women have hidden agendas. She WILL expect you to father a child VERY soon after getting married. Hope you enjoy 'real adulthood', not having the luxury of beating off in your room to cartoons and having to deal with the mood swings that only a Japanese woman can bring up.

I know nearly a dozen couples in Canada, the USA, England and Australia where the man (from said country) married a Japanese girl. They were each EXPECTED (with one exception) to help her pump out a child within the first year of marriage. All but two of those dozen are now in effectively sexless marriages and are miserable because they brought their girlfriend/wife back to their home country. Good luck on ya mate, I dodged that bullet twice already and realized that Japanese women are the worst for forcibly settling you down from anything but family. This may come off as harsh, but living with a wife is a LOT different than living in mommy and daddy's house...

Wow, this is not my experience at all!!
I have 14 years marriage to a Japanese woman I first met in Australia. We lived together, got married and had our first child in Japan. Even after 2 children we still have a very active sex life, in fact it has gone from strength to strength! As well as doing lots together as a family we also have our own hobbies and activities and we place no restrictions on each other in respect to these.
We have a wide circle of friends, in Japan and where we now live, including at least 50 inter-racial couples where one of the partners is Japanese. Of these couples that we are very close to, and see regularly, only one of them seem to be having marriage difficulties and that is due to the Korean husband being pretty selfish and not allowing his Japanese wife to have a life of her own! When he got into financial difficulties he uprooted his family and took them to Korea where his wife and beautiful daughters were miserable!
I've never encountered the supposed "hidden agendas" and "mood swings" in Japanese woman aquamarine talks of; my wife being the most honest, relaxed, open, caring and fun woman I have ever been with! I have, however, seen these traits in Chinese and Korean women. Nor did I ever feel pressured to produce children in the first year of marriage. In fact, of all the above mentioned couples I actually can't think of one of them that had children in their first year of marriage!

 

[jupiter999]

Sounds like she just using you to get over to US

Have the same feeling... But just my opinion only, no offense...:attention:

 

[josolopSon3]

Well guys, you make it seem like we've talked long and she's begging me. Well actually i just met her one day 1 week ago. She didn't say she wanted to marry me but she said "I can live in USA if i marry you"..

anyways, that girl hasn't been online for long. Maybe she forgot about me. BUT
**************let's forget her for a minute.

Something new happened.!!!
I met this other girl, I'm 29, she's 19!!! wow, young. She's studying english in the USA.
She's pretty hot, anyways.. we met online and we voice chat everyday.

She likes me a lot and she wants to be my girlfriend. I guess i'm a good person, but never before these days had i ever met girls who liked me a lot.
Well this 19 year old, will visit me in 3 months. Now she's in Los angeles, and I'm in a city that's really close. I'm not sure what i should do..because she's so young and hot and if she comes , meets me, it will be really exciting.

She's having feelings for me already. MMmm, i wonder if it's common for Japanese women to go out with old dudes 10 years older. Anyways, i'll date her at least once, and if i feel like it can't posssibly work, i'll tell her.

So i have a new question for you?
can a relationship with a 19 year old Japanese girl( me being 10 years older) work?
I mean, she's a student.. probably going to College after,, so it's kind of stupid.. BUT
on second thought, i could wait a few more years( say 5) to get married, in which case she would have graduated college and then be ready.

I wouldn't mind marrying her if things actually went well

 

[aquamarine]

I lol'd at the last post.

If you don't 'know' if a relationship between someone who's 30 and someone who's 20 can or can't work, then you're obviously not cut out for having a relationship.

Now, the next sentence I say with great thought. I tried to pretty it up to save your ego and self-confidence, but you seriously have it coming because from what you have told us, you have no social skills other than those from sitting behind a microphone. You've been here since Nov 2008, so I can't outright call you a troll, but your posts make you seem like a poster-boy for looserdom and are very close to outright emulating the '40 year old virgin'. If by some god-awful truth that you are everything you've told us, then I feel bad for you and the fact that you had to ASK us these things. Basically, if you can't read between the lines of this one particular J-Girl on Skype, then you are truly immature and incapable of a real relationship.

You told us she said "I can live in USA if I marry you.." ... dude, sorry but are you a complete idiot? She says that and you STILL ask us? Come on...

I'm saying it now for everyone to see, mods, users, admins.... Obvious troll is obvious

If you can't see the truth behind this ONE particular girl, then you really are an idiot dude. My suggestion: move out of mommy and daddy's house, grow a set of balls and go meet a REAL girl, not someone behind the keyboard that YOU WILL NEVER MEET. Oh, I know you won't meet her, because if you can't meet someone in your own home town, you sure as shit aren't going to have the nuts to meet someone from the other side of the globe. If you do, if by some horrible twist of fate that you will meet her and somehow she suckers you into marriage, you WILL be exactly like Daneil Stern's character in 'City Slickers'.

Now, that's me being NICE to you... savor it, cherish it, and if you didn't even get one ounce of knowledge out of what I just said, then you just proved everything I told you to be 100% correct. So grow a set of balls, and leave your mom's basement, K?

 

[jupiter999]

I met this other girl, I'm 29, she's 19!!! wow, young. She's studying english in the USA.
She's pretty hot, anyways.. we met online and we voice chat everyday.

You are just so lucky... Seems so easy for you to get one!? Why I don't have such luck by the way?? LOL~

i'll date her at least once

How to date her? Is she living near you?

can a relationship with a 19 year old Japanese girl( me being 10 years older) work?

Why not? Everything is possible in love affairs, IMHO...

P.S.
You are so lucky, man; I'm so unlucky, man...

 

[HarutoAsou]

#1. Age is nothing but a number (within reason)
#2. She's pretty hot? Take a webcam picture and learn how to use Photoshop. You can turn a fucking leper in to a hot girl, NEVER believe internet pictures.
#3. You haven't even met her yet and you're talking about marrying her in 5 years? You are the poster boy for pathetic.

 

[satomimi]

Meeting girls in Japan, you should also ask for their keitai email (mobile phone email) which they respond faster to and you can also tell them to go on msn, skype etc..

 

[josolopSon3]

#1. Age is nothing but a number (within reason)
#2. She's pretty hot? Take a webcam picture and learn how to use Photoshop. You can turn a fucking leper in to a hot girl, NEVER believe internet pictures.
#3. You haven't even met her yet and you're talking about marrying her in 5 years? You are the poster boy for pathetic.

Yes i know age is nothing but a number but I felt i was too old. Anyways, now i found out she's not 19 she's 21. I just calculated wrong the first time i saw her birth year.

What's wrong with believing internet pics? I have met other girls online and they show me their picture then we meet and they are just like the girls in the pictures. You know , Many people are actually truthful. Not everyone is mean.

I also dn't see what's so weird about marrying in 5 years. And i'm saying, IF IT WORKS OUT. Some people marry within a year of dating, so 5 is perfectly fine provided i was ready for it

And to JUPITER99:
-"You are just so lucky... Seems so easy for you to get one!? Why I don't have such luck by the way?? LOL~"

Yeah, i don't know how i do it but i'm good making Friendship with Asian girls. It's cause i'm kind of rare. I'm quiet, and i speak funny, i guess that's why they like me. For example, i'm american and 29 but i speak like a kid and i'm kind of cute and funy, i sing and I hum because i like music, and i do voices too. I'm not like a business type or outgoing talkative american rapper, and the girls have told me they like me because i"m nice. I guess i'm kind of weird that's why they like me. Funny thing, i'm shy in real life and in real life I have almost no friends.

"How to date her? Is she living near you?"
Yes right now she's living near me( in CA). 1 hour 1/2 by car. But i mean, we can also get to know eachother in chats even if she was in Japan. And she's coming to my city too so we'll date a little.

"Why not? Everything is possible in love affairs, IMHO...

P.S.
You are so lucky, man; I'm so unlucky, man..."

Thanks. You can do it too. Just be yourself. Also if you know Japanese, you can meet Japanese women who actually like Japan and Japanese language and like to share things about their culture. When i meet advvanced ESL students, they hate me to death cause they seem to only like talkative Americans who sound like AMerican actors, many of the ons i've met even hate their own culture. Since I'm shy they have no interest in me.

To AQUAMARINE:
You said "then you're obviously not cut out for having a relationship."
I'm not? What makes you think so? A relationship is based on love and friendship and i have that.

"Oh, I know you won't meet her, because if you can't meet someone in your own home town, you sure as shit aren't going to have the nuts to meet someone from the other side of the globe."

Uhhhh that's ridiculous. I personally have more courage meeting Foreigners.
I've met KOrean people, Chinese people., Japanese people. BEfriended them and even went to their apartment for lunch. And yet i don't meet many Americans. I just feel better accepted by Asians cause they seem to accept the fact that i'm shy. Most Asians i've met say "Shy is totally fine".. Americans always think i'm weird because i'm shy. SO, obviously I have the nuts to meet people from the other side of the globe.

Well anyways, mmmm, i don't even know why you're mad.
I'm just sharing some of my happiness.

 

[aquamarine]

I know you're not cut out for it because everything you have posted thus far makes you out to be a recluse looser that lives in his momma's basement and is afraid of women in real life away from his cartoon porn. Prove me wrong, go out to a bar, meet some people that don't play D&D.

 

[HarutoAsou]

Seriously...tell me this is a joke so I can die happy...

I also dn't see what's so weird about marrying in 5 years. And i'm saying, IF IT WORKS OUT. Some people marry within a year of dating, so 5 is perfectly fine provided i was ready for it

I'm not saying anything about the timing, it's the fact that you're giving ANY consideration to the fact that you might marry a girl YOU'VE NEVER MET! You're talking about marrying HER, not anyone.

Yeah, i don't know how i do it but i'm good making Friendship with Asian girls. It's cause i'm kind of rare. I'm quiet, and i speak funny, i guess that's why they like me. For example, i'm american and 29 but i speak like a kid and i'm kind of cute and funy, i sing and I hum because i like music, and i do voices too. I'm not like a business type or outgoing talkative american rapper, and the girls have told me they like me because i"m nice. I guess i'm kind of weird that's why they like me. Funny thing, i'm shy in real life and in real life I have almost no friends.

This whole paragraph is hilarious but the bolded part is proof you will never get pussy. You're completely delusional, a girl saying "I like you you're nice" basically means "you'll never get in my panties because you're just my friend" They like you because you speak English! I can meet international students without even trying, same as if anyone else here goes to a foreign country and has an interest in the language they will meet anyone who speaks it to learn it.

BEfriended them and even went to their apartment for lunch.

Holy shit you are a fucking player, please teach me how to do it!

BTW: I think Jupiter was being sarcasitc...yet you took it as a serious post.

EDIT: Please post a picture of yourself, preferably with a girl if you have one.

 

[aquamarine]

This guy is going to be the definition of 'cuckold' if he ever marries.

 

[HarutoAsou]

This guy is going to be the definition of 'cuckold' if he ever marries.

Be nice man, he's marrying this 21 year old Japanese girl he met on in the interweb because she loves him.

 

[aquamarine]

That -IS- me being nice.

 

[jupiter999]

Thanks. You can do it too. Just be yourself. Also if you know Japanese, you can meet Japanese women who actually like Japan and Japanese language and like to share things about their culture.

Just where to get japanese girl to chat online, I wonder...
Hope I can meet one, LOL~
But I'm learning Japanese by my own, but such a slow learner... Perhaps I can improve even more...

 

[josolopSon3]

I'm not marrying yet.. But if it goes well and she can wait for me to get my *** together, and if we get along then yes.

jupiter, don't be aplayer. Unless you going to roppongi, the normal girls don't want Foreign guys who are all about sex. She even said she hates guys who are like that. I'm not even about sex. I just like her so much , she's very friendly and we have friendly conversations.

And guess what? Today we swapped pics, and OH MAN she was suuuuuper pretty. She's like a model, . before she showed me a pic where she was not dressed up or anything. But today's pic was awesome. I stll can't believe she will be my GF. I've never had a GF before and i'm already 29. well, thre's a time for everything right ? : )

 

[jupiter999]

jupiter, don't be aplayer. Unless you going to roppongi, the normal girls don't want Foreign guys who are all about sex. She even said she hates guys who are like that. I'm not even about sex.

Gosh~ Do I look like I'm a person like that?!? Sad... :abandoned2:
I just wanna chat to a girl, have some good time for conversation, and especially improving my Japanese...

 

[josolopSon3]

Gosh~ Do I look like I'm a person like that?!? Sad... :abandoned2:
I just wanna chat to a girl, have some good time for conversation, and especially improving my Japanese...

No, you're fine. I was just saying cause some guys I know are always into the whole club scene and casual ***