What I can agree in full is that Americans like to "let it all hang out", often to the extreme. I mean to the extent that there's a lot of social pressure to be expressive and to emote the "correct" emotion. And it's supposed to be genuine. So you end up having to
fake some kind of
true feelings all the time.
Japanese are the opposite, there's
proper behavior and manner for every single situations and relations, so everyone always understands what to expect of others and what others expect of you. Everyone understands it's slightly
fake, but that's fine. Japanese believe it's more important to be
proper than be
genuine. And because you are so used to behave according to prescription
all the time, it's possible to not even have a
self, not even knowing how to be genuine. Self is such a conundrum in Japan that endless books, lectures, magazine articles and even top selling anime (Your Name, Sword Art Online) devote to it.
Anyway, you need not agree with me on that. At least this much should be uncontroversial: Japan and America are very very different.
But what to make of August Ames suicide I don't think I could agree to any generalization anyone tries to make. I am sure morality nazis are already exploiting her suicide to attack porn industry, sex industry and even sex itself. On the other hand, I can't say, to be fair, that porn industry or porn career doesn't have any contribution to her tragedy. (My typical argument is that the banking industry causes more suicides than porn industry) And how much is Twitter-trolling causing her suicide? I'm also not sure I would blame it on trolling. The absolute finality of it is that she hung herself. She did it
herself. Blaming trolls or porn or depression or whatever is still not changing that, she did it herself. Who can ever know what's the real trigger. Could have been she woke up with bad hair and that's the final trigger. The one and only
real reason she died is that
she hung herself.
JAV idols' social media are much more micro-managed than Ameriporn's, yeah ok that's true. But I'm not sure you can then say JAV idols are lucky because they don't have to deal with trolls/haters. Because Japanese internalize everything and (almost) always behave according to the
proper, we just don't know how much suffering they are hiding.
Perhaps we should just keep a little distance. Yeah I opened this thread to trade the gossips, and I kinda enjoy it as a way to kill time. BTW thanks to
@jwlim80 for, practically, taking over the gossip reporter role. Where was I... yeah gossip as a kill-time, but I think it's fine to just hold it at that level and not to get too worked up over it. Compared to BIG topics like politics, economy, health, JAV itself (mostly meaning masturbation) and gossips about JAV is pretty insignificant. Well all of us except
@Inertia who's working in the industry.