Masturbate to a girl you know in real life?

[Noid936]

I mostly use porn movies. But remember the time when you just started spanking? 11years old in my case... Back then i used everything i could find: magazines, hidden porn movies that my parents kept, erotic channels on tv, the slow but vast depths of the internet or just my imagination...
Everything was new and exciting!
Fastforwarding back to the present time everything needs to be 'more'...
Bigger tits, younger looking 'teens', hardcore, bondage,... Normal doesn't do it anymore...
sometimes i'm just thinking back and that's when i use my imagination or pics.

 

[King_Of_Rhye]

I've been doing that (masturbating to someone I know) for years, and still do today! It usually aint just doing it while thinking of her, or just looking at a picture of her, I usually concoct some bizarre, kinky fantasy involving her......(I actually remember writing one out about a super hot Korean girl I knew in high school )

 

[Gaspard]

When i started masturbating i had the choice between closing my eyes and let my imagination work or mode magazine. Internet didn't exist then and there was only 5 or 6 tv channel in France ^^

 

[supersam]

I think most of us have done this including me! Over a friend, girlfriends friend or of a co-worker etc

 

[Muz1234]

I've been doing that (masturbating to someone I know) for years, and still do today! It usually aint just doing it while thinking of her, or just looking at a picture of her, I usually concoct some bizarre, kinky fantasy involving her......(I actually remember writing one out about a super hot Korean girl I knew in high school )

You wrote a letter to a Korean girl?

 

[prongs12]

masturbate to a girl I know? Never...

why do I masturbate real girl? I masturbate on hentai..

real girl? just boned them.. If situation permitted...

 

[nee]

Hot babes in school yeah, but I never take photos and jerk off to them, I just fantasize going into their rooms and we do stuff together. I don't think I'd do it that when I have a girlfriend though, I'd just focus on her and not just any woman I fancy.

 

[King_Of_Rhye]

You wrote a letter to a Korean girl?

No, I wrote a story involving her, for my um..........personal use

 

[ElAngelo]

Haven't we all?

 

[Mari0Br0s]

we have calluses on your hands Lol

 

[shaniandras2787]

Sometimes I do feel fun masturbate to a girl you know in real life. Moreover, if you like the girl, that could be better. I don't know if masturbation to a real photo of girl while valuing the enjoyment can be consider a step in choosing or making decision which girl is suitable for you to date with. lol

Yo man! Don't prioritize masturbation. Getting real sex is the key and if not, at least a handjob from someone else. If you constantly find yourself masturbating to someone else and that someone else is yet to be your girlfriend, that is not the condition to dating, that's just infatuation, you'll get over it eventually. There will come a day when you meet someone whom you will not want to just have sex but imagining a life with her.

Back to the topic. Yes, I have a girlfriend and we do have sex regularly but on and off I do masturbate to someone else other than her (her cousin, my course mate etc) but I rather do that than to eventually cheat on her actually.

She doesn't know though =(

 

[King_Of_Rhye]

Back in my junior high/high school days I did that all the time.... (masturbate while thinking of a certain girl I knew)...at that time, I very rarely had a gf, and had relatively limited access to porn (well it was the 90s! lol)

I still have fond memories of my junior high's cheerleaders.....(SHORT skirts!!!! heh)

Then I went to high school and they freakin ruined that....what the freakin hell, knee-length skirts on cheerleaders??? That was just wrong....not to mention the really hot girls quit being cheerleaders at that time for some damn reason....but I'm seriously digressing here......

 

[crystal2005]

lol, what if its your girlfriend? Will you tell her, that you masturbate her photo?

Yeah i guess that shouldnt be a problem at all.. i think she would happily accept to the fact that you masturbate while seeing her photos instead of the other

The one who wants to break up, I find that so extreme, IMO. Maybe they think its disgraceful? Moreover, if you know her and the women don't know you at all, I wonder what she might thinks if she founds out this habit.

I watched porn with my gf and she was totally fine with that...

 

[CodeGeek]

Yeah i guess that shouldnt be a problem at all.. i think she would happily accept to the fact that you masturbate while seeing her photos instead of the other

I guess it depends. If she is around you it maybe wouldn't be okay. Why masturbating while looking at her photo if you can have the real deal. In this case you really have a problem, I think. Different story if one of you is away (long distance relationship or abroad for work for some time). But in this case maybe some phone / video chat (e.g. using Skype) sex would be also nice (if your girl feels comfortable with that).

I watched porn with my gf and she was totally fine with that...

She was totally fine. Okay. But what is her opinion about it? That would be more interesting.

 

[King_Of_Rhye]

I actually had a bi GF for a brief while.......if she had caught me masturbating to a picture of another woman, she might have very well said something like "hey, she's cute"........that never happened but she did used to show me pictures of girls she liked on her computer.....

 

[alexkiallys]

If by "real life" you mean knowing someone "in the physical world", no I don't fantasize about them. I don't even fantasize about my ex girlfriends after we've broken up.

In this day and age, it's so easy to meet someone through social media at in large numbers as well. ALL of my friends on Facebook are female (over 3,100). All races, different ages, different parts of the world and I can let my imagination run wild. More females I could ever meet in person.

I think traditional relationships are obsolete or eventually will be. Half of all marriages in America end in divorce. I can only imagine what it's like for couples who are years away from being engaged. So if there's a good chance you'll break up, what are you and your mate trying to build together?

Another thing, it's so easy to NOT be monogamous. "Fuck buddies", "Friends with benefits" etc... all are reasons to go outside your relationship. Dirty chat rooms, sexting etc... people are not going to settle for less. If their mate can't or won't do something for them, they'll find someone who can. And since you can meet anyone of any race or age, there are no limits. I wonder how many women masturbate to men (and women) they know in real life. (I bet as many or more than men do!)

You or the person you're with has cheated in the past,
You or the person you're with is cheating right now,
or
You or the person you're with, will cheat in your relationship.

 

[CodeGeek]

alexkiallys, that's very negative attitude towards live and relationships.
Maybe we have more divorces now because people don't have constraints necessities they had before. E.g. women make their own money so they don't need a man who brings the money home.
But maybe we're also more and more unable to have relationships. It's not about the possibilities we have now, but the things we're unable to do now.
Friends on FB is a good example. We can have millions of friend on social media, but the number of real friends...

 

[alexkiallys]

alexkiallys, that's very negative attitude towards live and relationships.
Maybe we have more divorces now because people don't have constraints necessities they had before. E.g. women make their own money so they don't need a man who brings the money home.
But maybe we're also more and more unable to have relationships. It's not about the possibilities we have now, but the things we're unable to do now.
Friends on FB is a good example. We can have millions of friend on social media, but the number of real friends...

But what I said is true. You might not believe this, but I'm an old fashioned romantic. I have relatives who have been married for 30, 40 and even 50 years! So I've seen that side of relationships.

Some people don't want to do the hard work it takes to maintain a relationship. A lot of people aren't in relationships because of love, it's because they don't want to be alone. And there is a difference. People feel a stigma if they're single. Earlier in this thread, one member told another member that he should get a girlfriend.

Why?

Don't get a girlfriend just to say you have a girlfriend. There's nothing to prove. And you stated that people don't have constraints like they had before. I respectully disagree.

People don't have the respect, discipline and focus they had before. If a guy is in a relationship, why in the world is he in a chat room talking about sex with another woman?

Because he doesn't have to be committed to his girlfriend. No one HAS to chat in a chat room. No one HAS to send nude pictures of themselves. People do it because they can. And they don't care about the person they're with until....

THEY GET CAUGHT!!!

Then all of a sudden it's...

"Hey, it's not what you think. I know it looks bad, but um... um... come on, so I was masturbating while I was looking at this woman have sex with a horse! EVERYONE does it!"

And if the other person doesn't believe them, then the "cheater" actually becomes defiant!

"Fine, whatever, who needs you? You think I can't find another woman? Just watch me!"

If a single guy daydreams about all these different women, I understand, but if you're in a relationship, then what does the other woman have that your girlfriend (or wife) doesn't?

Because when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to accept the other person as they are. But how many people truly do that? I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but if your eye starts to wander, ask yourself ... "Why?"

 

[shaniandras2787]

If a single guy daydreams about all these different women, I understand, but if you're in a relationship, then what does the other woman have that your girlfriend (or wife) doesn't?

Because when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to accept the other person as they are. But how many people truly do that? I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but if your eye starts to wander, ask yourself ... "Why?"

You have a point in your argument. At the end of the day, it all boils down to loyalty and what is the definition of loyalty and also largely how the male human being is made. I remembered watching a documentary stating that males are meant to mate and their purpose is to ensure that their gene is not extinct. So, evidently no matter how many partners the male has, he will always go out searching for more. This is of course if they took that all human beings are animal but i don't buy that.

Most human being loves the feeling of being thrilled and what's why some people chose to cheat. It's not because they want to or they have fallen in love with the other. It's simply because of the thrill on doing something "illegal" and the excitement that they gained from successfully evading from getting caught. Much like James Bond, a spy can't be caught. They love their wife at home but life after marriage becomes monotonous. The same thing repeats itself and it become worst when you have children. You get sleepy when you're driving on a highway.

I of course too blame the society more or less because if you compared females nowadays and then, the way they bring themselves and they way they dressed. it's totally different. they used to be very decent and demure but now, less is more. When you are constantly around such seductions, it's hard not to keep your mind from straying.

Though I don't agree that some r**ist claimed that the victims dress are provoking but truly some girls are really inviting.

 

[alexkiallys]

You have a point in your argument. At the end of the day, it all boils down to loyalty and what is the definition of loyalty and also largely how the male human being is made. I remembered watching a documentary stating that males are meant to mate and their purpose is to ensure that their gene is not extinct. So, evidently no matter how many partners the male has, he will always go out searching for more. This is of course if they took that all human beings are animal but i don't buy that.

Most human being loves the feeling of being thrilled and what's why some people chose to cheat. It's not because they want to or they have fallen in love with the other. It's simply because of the thrill on doing something "illegal" and the excitement that they gained from successfully evading from getting caught. Much like James Bond, a spy can't be caught. They love their wife at home but life after marriage becomes monotonous. The same thing repeats itself and it become worst when you have children. You get sleepy when you're driving on a highway.

I of course too blame the society more or less because if you compared females nowadays and then, the way they bring themselves and they way they dressed. it's totally different. they used to be very decent and demure but now, less is more. When you are constantly around such seductions, it's hard not to keep your mind from straying.

Though I don't agree that some r**ist claimed that the victims dress are provoking but truly some girls are really inviting.

I believe males are conditioned from an early age to behave a certain way around females. I didn't hang out with guys growing up. I usually spent time alone or around women. I have a different perspective. Because I've been around women so much, I can take sex out of the "equation." So no matter how the woman is dressed, it doesn't mean I'll automatically be tuned on.

Like some guys can see a woman in a particular outfit and they'll automatically think a certain way, because that's what they've been taught.

I believe sex is mental and the body follows.

You have the power to take your sexual energy and use it for something else. That could be the reason why boxers don't have sex before a fight. So it doesn't matter how much a guy wants to sleep with someone else while he's in a relationship. Doesn't matter how bored he is with the relationship. Either break up with the person or be faithful. Unless it's an "open" relationship, I don't see what the problem is.

I'll tell you this, if the penalty for being caught cheating was at the very least, castration for men and gang r*** for women, people would think twice about doing it.

As a matter of fact, they would actually take time to tell their mate that they want out of the relationship, instead of sneaking behind their back.

I don't know about other parts of the world, but in some parts of America, "Crime Of Passion" can be an actual defense. You discover that your spouse is cheating, you become so upset that you kill them and their lover.

That alone should be a reason why people should come clean.