Well, I must admit I enjoyed reading through the posts of this thread, and it was refreshing to see the many full of common sense comments about a self-perceived problem (most of the times) but, nevertheless, very real for those who happen to experience it.
After some more 15 years* of (normal paced, fast paced, straight, dead-drunk, shared etc.) sexual activity, I guess I could share my take on the matter of the human penis size image:
1. Size DOES matter -- just not in the way most of us, especially men, think it does. It should be neither overestimated, nor underestimated. Yet, it matters somewhat less than the ability to maintain erection at will... and even less than harmony and open communication.
2. Size is most of the time a matter of:
- (self-)perception and confidence: Am I too small? Is she telling the truth when she says I'm just fine? But her ex's was bigger, what will she think of me? See the trend here?
- regional,personal culture + (mis-)information: We, Asians, aren't exactly "gifted". Blacks have it so huge! and other bullshit in the same repertoire.
- body-fitting: "Jeez, he's tearing me apart and he thinks I enjoy it!" or "Wish he could reach deeper, at least once..." or "Fuck, she's so tight, it makes me cum in no time!" or the opposite "Damn, I could loose my cavalty escadron in here, and it took me a week to find it!"
libido, time of day, atmosphere, what you ate, how tired you are, and a hundred other ingredients thrown in the mix. Really, there are too many to count and, believe me, even the most intelligent / informed of us sometimes happen fall into this trap.
3. Taking time and measuring your penis against the recorded medical average might indeed help you in rationalizing your unfounded fears and come out into the light. Hopefully, you're light hearted too, and know how prone to error statistic sometimes may be, right?
4. From direct related experince, I can confirm that the female brain is ultimately not so different than that of male's... Hard to believe but yes, most of the points above apply to normal girl/women too.
5. If you're still feeling down about your size, think about this and lighten your mood:
THERE are one hundred and ninety-three living species of monkeys and apes. One hundred and ninety-two of them are covered with hair. The exception is a naked ape self-named Homo sapiens.
This unusual and highly successful species spends a great deal of time examining his higher motives and an equal amount of time studiously ignoring his fundamental ones. He is proud that he has the biggest brain of all the primates, but attempts to conceal the fact that he also has the biggest penis, preferring to accord this honour falsely to the mighty gorilla.
He is an intensely vocal, acutely exploratory, over-crowded ape, and it is high time we examined his basic behaviour. -- Desmond Morris, "The Naked Ape"
Reflect on that last phrase, rather than on your penis size.
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* I'm a healthy Caucasian male, in the early 30s, blessed with a great Japanese wife to share my pillow with.
[Edited for wrong paragraph position.]