Anyoen ever had this? If this is anxiety, then how can you stop it?
I tried calming myself down but i couldn't.
It sounds like a panic attack. It is an adrenaline surge without either a fight or a flight. It can be over within four minutes if you relax the moment it starts.
To stop this feeling of anxiety you should not fight it. Fighting it will make it spiral out of control. You should relax by reminding yourself it is all in your head. No one has ever died from just a panic attack. It feels gruesomely grisly and then it is over and you are actually just fine, just like the last time.
You can try to increase the intensity of a panic attack mentally. This will cause the attack to lessen. An anxiety attack is a spiral of fear inducing more fear which can stop when you no longer fear fear and invite it.
You could also distract yourself. Listen to someone talk or start counting things around you. Anxiety and panic are fuelled by your own thoughts; distraction can stop the spiral.
You should realise that the way you feel in such a situation does not match the actual situation. It is all happening in your mind; somewhere your thoughts have taken a wrong turn. Feeling horribly anxious is how you should feel when you fall out of an airplane without a parachute or if you find a polar bear charging at you. It is not how you should feel when talking to a woman socially.
The terrible feeling of anxiety can condition you to avoid anxiety inducing situations. You should however not avoid any of these situations as avoidance will only make matters worse for you. The first time in an anxious situation you will feel terrible, the second time in the same situation you will feel terrible, the third time you will feel a little less terrible, the tenth time will be not so terrible and the twentieth time will be okay. Every time you face an irrational fear it will extinguish a little.
An anxiety disorder can ruin a life on the same level as for example a cocaine addiction. You probably had your first panic attack, more can follow. Don't let it run its course if they do. It might never get any worse for you or just go away, but it might also be the beginning of a fully-fledged anxiety disorder.
