Watching too much porn..

Sorry I just can't sympathize. I had been flapping to both Western porn and JAV pretty much non-stop for a quarter century and I still get wood every morning and also involuntarily (one good thing about global warming, there are hot girls wearing miniskirts and hot hot pant even in mid-winter) and also "on demand".

Nowadays, my partner has accepted my porn "addiction" so whenever I have the urge and she's ignoring me, I'd put a video on and masturbate very slowly. 7 times out of 10, she can't stand the sight of my raging cock and put down her iPhone or whatever, and get on with the program. If I put on a JAV, it's more for my own sake, but JAV bores her due to the mosaic and lame JAV guys. So if I want to make her really naughty, I'd put on something gonzo from Europe. She gets annoyed with me over porn, but then, it's thanks to porn that I get to enjoy anal sex on a regular basis.

And yes despite she has accepted it, she still gets annoyed over it. So when I download a new vid I tend to check it out in private. And if the vid's any good, I would have to stroke my cock right? Then I have a dilemma, do I hold off and wait? If either the vid is very good, or if I judge my chance of getting lucky is less than 50%, I would jerk myself off. It also happens that she would come in afterward and want to have sex, without knowing I've just drained myself. At such inconvenient moments, it's almost impossible to reach full hardness, but it's still never a problem to finish the "job". And since I have to pump longer and harder to reach the second ejaculation, she might even compliment my performance. Glad to be of service honey, but my nuts do ache so.

So ... counting masturbation and proper sex, I am averaging not less than once a day. Do some math... wow, that's 10 thousand loads, easily. Guess I'm pretty lucky, the little bro keeps going and going and going... I mean, coming and coming...
 
Watching too much porn can make it very hard to get an erection or have sex the traditional way. For example, if all you watch is bukkake, gokkun then most likely you will have a hard time getting aroused in real life normal sexual encounters. That genre is extremely popular in japan but most girls do not like it thus you create your own problem.

There is also arousal isolation, meaning you can only get erection in one spot or position. Another common problem. not sure of the actual term. With increasing health and weight problems along with porn addiction, what can guys do to get back to being sexually capable or even just back to normal???

Have any of you guys ever been to therapy for porn addiction? I've had these problems I admit, and its hard to get help for it. Maybe this forum can help.

Interesting topic for me since I had trouble in the past. If all you watch is gokkun, or all you watch is deepthroating, or anal sex, then this may be all that excites you and when you actually get a girl that won't do any of those acts then you might not get aroused... I'll admit it happened to me and it pissed me off when I couldn't lay down the pipe and get 'er done. So I had to "retrain" myself. No matter what you are into when you watch porn, when you get a real girl you have to be able to "fuck her right in the pussy." That's what girls want. Watch some standard sex regular porn for while and also you need to know what turns you on during regular sex and hold those thoughts when you are in the act with a girl. For me it turns me on when I look at the girl as a toy for me, or like a gift, or I like to think of myself as some kind of lord in the old days and that I own the girl and can fuck her as I please... as you can see i like to treat them like a sex object when I fuck them. Or maybe if you like certain sex positions just ask her to get into that position or maybe you like to manhandle whatever floats ur boat or works to get the job done.

The other problem was when I first started having sex I was too used to porn. I was watching porn since jr high or high school and when my first actual encounter happened in college I couldn't get it up since I was so used to porn... The only way to cure this is experience combined with what I said in the first paragraph. Either get a girlfriend that will be patient so that you can learn to enjoy a real flesh and blood female, or you gotta fork over some dough and get some hookers or in this case I'd call them "sex teachers/therapists." I chose the latter since I didn't like the embarrassment of admitting to a regular girl I don't know how to fuck lol.

Very good valid points, I agree with all the above. It's happened to me, about to have sex and then I'm thinking about all bukkake, gokkun etc and then you can't perform.
 
all I watched was anal funny enough I broke free because I was over anal about the quality of the product since I started to follow more industry news in porn.

What do you mean by that? Is there something about anal porn quality that's different?

Also in general do your partners either willing or refuse to do these sexual acts as in JAV?
 
Stop being so pathetically co-dependent on social media and internet and so on. Grow up and take some responsibility. Get up and use society around you that isn't electronic. I grew up (teen years) in the 80's and my first computer was a VIC-20, no internet. Internet came along later. I love the internet and I use it for necessity and basic entertainment. There is a real world outside of your hands and images on a screen. Too lazy to live in the real world. Society is collapsing and it is sad.
 
TraumaDoc is on the right track but unfortunately, this is an addiction. I just looked at my collection spanned across several hard drives and several just regular drives.........wow, I have way too much JAV. Seriously......... But I still want to download more. It never stops, i've tried a few times already and I've already come to accept that I will be addicted to this aspect of japanese culture until i die.
 
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TraumaDoc is on the right track but unfortunately, this is an addiction. I just looked at my collection spanned across several hard drives and several just regular drives.........wow, I have way too much JAV. Seriously......... But I still want to download more. It never stops, i've tried a few times already and I've already come to accept that I will be addicted to this aspect of japanese culture until i die.

Just like me , so much JAV over different hard drives, couldn't believe I owned so many! But here I am always trying to find something new that fufills my JAV need. It's a very hard addiction to break... I can go off it, but always come back in the end.
 
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What TraumaDoc saying isn't to quit the habit. I mean we are all here in Akiba Online, we are JAV fans by definition. There's difference between habit and addiction/dependence.

What he is saying is to also have normal relationship/interaction with real people, particularly female people, particularly female people of young adult age. JAV addiction means that you are unable to meet, talk to, woo, seduce, and/or have intercourse with real people. Consider use JAV to your advantage too. Watch, jerk off, then go meet/talk to a girl. With your testicles drained of sperms (temporary), maybe you can have a non-creepy conversation for full 10 minutes.

On the other hand, if there's a reasonably non-ugly girl sucking on your penis and you can't get it erect or worse, can't get orgasm without JAV/porn, then you need medical/psychological help.
 
Yup too much porn is bad. This may be hypocritical but we actually have too much sexual stimulus in our society. Back in the old day people were more conservative and there was a lot less promiscuity in all around. Nowadays you can't walk 2 blocks down the street with out seeing some ads or media featuring suggestive content. Porn was my one gateway to release. But it can also be very addicting like drugs. You start with vanilla stuff and gradual want more intense stuff.

I'm actually still trying to overcome my addiction. Even now that I'm older and have a girl, I still want to a PSE (Porn star Experience).

My advice is to curb you addictions. Rely on it only when you have no choice. Try to come back to the real world where girls aren't that hot and won't be able to perform like those actresses.
 
Is there another thread here for JAV addiction or ways to cope and step back from it? As of now, I am still downloading too much. Also, have any of you gotten in trouble for downloading this JAV from the law? That is worrying me more and more with the way the internet is going. Not sure where the technology for file sharing is going nowadays but it is becoming more difficult to download or own purchases as everything is becoming server based and remotely stored.
 
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oh wow, and i thot this was just a place for japanese adult media. at last i am not alone and justified at that
 
Well, my problem is that sometimes can't don't have desire to fuck my gf cause i masturbated that day, or days before.

Hmm how do you feel when you want to fuck and she's not in the mood? I don't know your relationship or how long it is. But I think even in a long term relationship, it's not easy for a gf/wife to ask for sex. Or she's asking for it but you didn't notice!

So if you lack desire to fuck her it may not be good. So (1) even at a certain time point you are not particularly horny, but if the chance presents itself you should do something to show that she's driving you crazy (even if you have to pretend). You could feel up her thigh or not-so-accidentally bump into her tits or even something non-physical like peeking down her cleavage. GF needs attention and no matter if your cock is sore from over-masturbation, you can make her happy without necessarily escalating to actual sex; (2) dude how old are you? A typical masturbation or sex only calm down my horniess for 3-6 hours. Sometimes, for example, I fucked my partner with some JAV playing, we finished but too exhausted to turn off the TV and fell asleep with the JAV(s) still playing. And I might wake up again and watch more JAV and masturbate. Other times I watched JAV and masturbate and then within a short time (a few times it was less than half hour after I came) my partner wants to fuck. Well I didn't want her to know that I already masturbated so I will myself to a erection and gave her a good time. And a good time she gets, since I am not doing it for my pleasure, it's hard for me to get my own orgasm so I just pump and pump and pump like an energizer bunny. Actually instead of pleasure it feels kinda sore. Even a couple times I just had nothing in the tanks, so after 20 mins and my dick was really aching I just pretend to have my orgasm, dismount and try to fall asleep with a sore dick.

Well that's the price I pay so she tolerate me for my JAV/porn habit and other things. Most partners won't put up with it but she lets me after I prove that I have enough libido for her and whatever other activities I get into. Also she lets me have my way even when she's not in the mood. Often I wake up with morning wood, actually I pretty much wake up with a erection every morning, what I'm talking about is the more serious cases. But she's still fast asleep. Well I gently remove her panty, moisten her pussy and ease my erect cock into her. She barely wake up enough to spread her legs for me, after I relieve myself, she goes back to sleep and I make myself breakfast and get to work, knowing that I can focus on work until at least lunch. Or when she's on the period and I'm horny, she would give me a blowjob and/or handjob with or without JAV on. Well if she's doing all that for me then how can I be not in the mood for her, even if I had already masturbated twice that day?
 
Is bad for health... this is what i heard from many people. How does it affect your health actually? Mentally? Physically? I don't understand.

its depend on how much ? many people said if too much, but its subjective. but the most important is we must know the limit, and realize porn is just for fun, don't mixed it with reality
 
Well I gently remove her panty, moisten her pussy and ease my erect cock into her. She barely wake up enough to spread her legs for me, after I relieve myself, she goes back to sleep and I make myself breakfast and get to work, knowing that I can focus on work until at least lunch.

This is amazing. You have an understanding partner (for this part only).
 
Is bad for health... this is what i heard from many people. How does it affect your health actually? Mentally? Physically? I don't understand.

It does. Though you may be able to sleep better after that. In the long run, it ruins your mental health if you are a frequent masturbator. I don't know about people who have sex often. It causes memory losses and you are not able to concentrate, especially during that one or two days after you ejaculated.


I actually read a thing the other day where a guy that worked putting mosaics on JAV was answer questions, and he said seeing so much porn everyday made him, and most of the people he worked with, just unable to get aroused by most sexual things, even in their personal lives. He said just seeing it so much kind of ruined it for him, and it took him along time after he quit that job to get back to normal with that kind of thing again.

I don't think there would be any kind of issues with too much porn other than the mental side of it. The only health problem I could see would be from masturbating to it too much, or something like that. Or if you have a heart condition and you get too excited by it. lol

I agree. In recent years, I am only able to erect through porn. So many hot girls walked past me and I am only able to erect to a girl. Sad. Your heart beat will be faster during that one day after you ejaculate. It does not apply to wet dreams. Wet dreams, however, is actually a not tired and really good feeling. Felt really good after I woke up and really fresh and light on my head. Never had that since I masturbated frequently. Wish I have that feeling every night dreaming of fucking my favourite hot mature JAV stars. I don't mind wetting my panties and the bed sheet every night. Gives me a reason to be clean and wash the bed sheet everyday.

Addiction can be somewhat subjective, but, from my understanding, a good indicator is whether or not the activity in question is negatively affecting your life in any way.

Aquamarine's example is a good one. If you're canceling dates or pushing away a significant other in favor of watching pr0n, you may have some issues you need to work on.

Another example would be a person overspending and straining their income buying pr0n (not a very likely scenario, these days. Hooray for internets!).

I gotta say, though, if a person were looking for honest, serious advice on porn addiction, the best resource is probably not a website predominantly dedicated to sharing pornography. :pandalaugh:

Oh then I will be the very very few to give serious advice. I am a living example of this addiction. More than 15 years in fact. It wasted my whole lot of precious time, energy and a lot of other things that brought a lot of negatively to my life. Time searching for porn, waiting for them to be downloaded and then masturbate. After masturbation is the hard part, recovery. It may take one and up to a week for recovery, depending on your health and age. The younger you are, the faster you can recover. I am no qualified/certified sexologist. Masturbation./fucking usually leads to ejaculation. If I am a qualified sexologist, I would suggest not to masturbate/fuck too often or one day masturbate/fuck more than once. Let your body recover for a day or two before the next masturbation. Because the continuation of ejaculation in a day will ruin your body. Blood flow in your body will slow down by a lot due to the heart working harder and tired after ejaculation. Some of us are more prone to growing moles (no research done) on our bodies if our blood flow is not good. Which makes your face and body uglier to your partner or anybody else. It makes your body not so resilient to fight bacteria and you will in turn fall ill easily. In sports, you will not perform well and must train harder to reach back your previous level.


When there are just a few members who pose questions in these sections on an average basis it makes me wonder..... Is this guy putting us on? Is he having fun with us? Does chompy pretend to be these hicks in his spare time for laughs?

As a rule: too much of anything is bad and moderation is the key. Not that I am a poster child for that but I believe that statement to be true. There are actually porn addicts who spend too much of their life either in the pursuit of, and/or watching, porn. Good thing we have boards such as this where these poor souls can feel at home.

I thought so too. There are quite a number of people like this in this forum. But I've met good ones as well.

Yes, moderation is the key word.

watching too much gives you a cosmopolitan idea of sex and every time you get it you expect it to be like what you see and lose your sense of reality.

If you masturbate a lot and can lead to a number of problems including fatigue, testicle pain and muscle spasms as well as some abdominal pain.

I lost my sense of reality and most importantly, I lost my memory and time.
Its good to ejaculate once in a while. Say maybe once every 2-3 months.
Just to clear the bad things in your body and testicles.
In fact, I believe the cum males deposited into female's vagina is actually a lot of bad things and DNA(including sperm, good thing) (no research done).

More than 10 years ago, I used to walk down a steep flight of stairs feeling very heavy in my dangling balls. That feeling is good. I felt that there is a lot of things inside there waiting to come out. Fertile I guess. Those days I did not really masturbate much and there is a lot of sperm in the duct. Nowadays not anymore.

Moderation is key...If it has gone to a point where you are not doing anything else, and you're spending most of your time, and money to get it, then, yes-it's too much.

If you have a life where you have a broad range of interests, and activities, then you're not watching too much (however you define that).

Yes, i really need to get a life. The same goes for other brothers who are like me here. Hoping to leave this forum and porn soon. And hopefully its for good.


Porn young people to know the sex. But to put it in the right way.

It taught the young people to fuck earlier in their lives as compared to our parents and ancestors.


Watching too much porn can make it very hard to get an erection or have sex the traditional way. For example, if all you watch is bukkake, gokkun then most likely you will have a hard time getting aroused in real life normal sexual encounters. That genre is extremely popular in japan but most girls do not like it thus you create your own problem.

There is also arousal isolation, meaning you can only get erection in one spot or position. Another common problem. not sure of the actual term. With increasing health and weight problems along with porn addiction, what can guys do to get back to being sexually capable or even just back to normal???

Have any of you guys ever been to therapy for porn addiction? I've had these problems I admit, and its hard to get help for it. Maybe this forum can help.

Self control is really hard especially the JAV girls are really pretty than our friends. But all these are fantasy. We need to walk away and get back to reality. Hopefully you receive the help you need soon. Not here though.


Either get a girlfriend that will be patient so that you can learn to enjoy a real flesh and blood female, or you gotta fork over some dough and get some hookers or in this case I'd call them "sex teachers/therapists.".

Give a girl I love and I will know how to fuck. don't do it yourself anymore. A real flesh and blood female is so much better. That is LIFE. Masturbation is only fantasy. This goes out to all brother and sisters here. Our penis are warm and female vaginas also have warmth in their bodies. Nobody in the correct state of mind will reject a warm real vagina, especially with a hot girl. I am not sure about the opposite. But I am sure some sisters here will also want to make love with a real warm penis instead of a didilo. You will not get the excitement with a onahole (masturbator) as compared to a real flesh and blood female. Hookers just want you to ejaculate fast. Enough said.
 
Hey, if it takes more than a week to recover, you might look into diet, excersie...
Yes, a real girl is better. Can go to meetups or even use an app like Tinder or Line.
The girls are looking for nice guys, I'm sure you'll find someone nice.
Just take a month or two off from porn and your body will lead the way.
Good luck and we are all rooting for you.

PS...seeing some massage girls or escorts can be good to get the ball rolling.
Normal girls will sense that you've been having real sex, and they'll be interested.

Get a cool haircut, be casual and funny, it will all work out.
Thanks Bro.
 
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Anything too much is bad by any means.
Issues?. Always with, 'none other than porn' will line up several issues.
 
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