I heard some guys count things or think about non sex related stuff to train their mind so they dont cum too soon. Maybe women are doing it to put us off or as you say something to do when he ain't doing it right to entertain themselves lol
in my experience, i hear a lot about guys wanting to last longer by thinking other stuff that is non related to sex(actually a friend tried to think about his mum/dad banging on the door while they were having sex
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to extend their time having sex.
But i think otherwise. Reason being is that instead of thinking about something else, u should think about the sex itself, and increase your body awareness and should relax and try to enjoy it. One of the simplest way is just breathing during sex. Rather that sex performance you be more aware of the pleasure in sex.
there are in fact more things that you can do to increase your time in sex if you are just more aware of thing in YOUR DAILY life rather than just sex. For example, you can just focus more on your pleasure during masturbation or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus. You have to get use to the feeling and not look away from the pleasure, otherwise you lose the whole point of having sex.
opss i think i got a bit side track there on the topic, lol. If you need more detail just let me know and i will try to explain in more detail. I dont want to take up the whole post on things that are not even asked in the topic.
Any way hope this helps
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