Yeah when she and I were figuring out how to get me off orally, that's when I really realized men and women really don't know how to pleasure each other, and each person is really very different from each other. I mean sure I always knew the head-game is very specific. You read about fetishes like high heels, or diapers or receiving facials. So obvious that those fetishes are 100% or at least 90% mental game.
But what's interesting, extremely interesting to me is that even physical pleasure for men (also making (common) assumption that women's pleasure is more mental than men's) . Even physical pleasure for men is very very subjective. Like I read about a blowjob queen in Japan. She is supposedly very famous oral sex professional. In interview, she explained many clients want a vacuum blow job, sucking extremely hard (imagine sucking very thick milkshake, even molasses, through a straw). To me that sounds like torture. Hmm correction... I didn't realize I hated cocksucking until I had a very steady partner.
For the first hundreds of times I have sex with a particular girl, whenever she sucks me, I would at first be appreciative (rather enjoy the mental game of oral sex) but then the physical pleasure (lack thereof) takes over, I pull out and insert myself into her pussy, which is always awesome for me, and mostly pleasurable (I don't pretend I'm king of fucking) for her. It's only after a very long relation with a particular girl that we started to question the exact boundary of everything and what else we want to experiment on. Only then did I realize my cock doesn't want sucking, it wants the opposite: pressure. Once I had a prostitute whose pussy is very very tight. Holy shit, is she a virgin? Obviously not. Only after the first round and I decided to keep her for the night and in the middle of second round I ask her are you constricting your vagina the whole time? She said yes, I was very amazed. Turns out she squeezes all the cocks that enters her pussy and mostly can get a ejaculation within 3 minutes, so she can either get a lot of "work" done on a busy night or be done with it if business is light and she can either sleep or play on her phone. But after a round and a half, I said see I am not a 3 minutes guy, I am going to do this for at least 30 minutes so you can relax and let me have my fun. But she won't hear it, she mumble something about female pleasure and making my cum faster. Anyway long story short, I fucked her three times and then twice more the next night. I tried and tried and couldn't get her to relax her vagina.
That's when I had a realization about myself... my cock wants to piston fuck a tight warm moist hole, not be sucked under negative pressure. My cock wants to penetrate and push into a tight (maybe resisting) orifice. And when I cum I want to pump a huge amount of sperm into the deepest part of that orifice (that's why I feel sorry for JAV studs who has to get to orgasm under the director's command, pull out, rips off the condom and shot sperm in (cool) mid air for the camera). So deepthroat is not only necessary, the way I want to piston pump a mouth might be very dangerous to her.
Once in a while I let a girl gets me off, vaginally, orally or manually. But seems something is not quite complete, if my orgasm is made by the girl. Most of the time I have to do a around two, if not by fucking some hole (me on top), then I have to masturbate.